It’s all fun and games until someone takes a hit to the face. And I’m not talking about the football game. I’m talking about the Thanksgiving dinner.
Ah, Thanksgiving – the day where we’re supposed to feel grateful for life’s many blessings. Sounds great in theory, right? Well, bringing the entire family together can be a recipe for disaster (see how I tied in recipe there?), unless you already know what to expect.
You’ve heard me say many times before that we all have our own unique personality styles and preferences for communicating. Well, the same holds true for how we handle conflict.
Here are a few tips according to your style to keep yourself in check and enjoy each other:
The Dominant Style: You guessed it – they’re in charge of the whole menu. Stay out of their way, or just smile and nod when given your assignment. If this is you, it’s okay to lower your shoulders, actually, listen to the stories being shared, and let everyone chip in. Ask them their opinion on the dish. Better yet, ask them what they’re thankful for.
Our Inspiring Style: You’ve emailed, DM’d, and texted everyone about the big day. You’ve tried to re-create a Kardashian – inspired dip, and changed your outfit twice. Try not to completely monopolize the conversation, and focus. To not completely implode, put the phone away and enjoy this precious time.
Ah, the Supportive Style: You may miss them completely, as they’re busy taking coats, delivering drinks, and running out for more ice. If this is you, sit down. Even if you hide in the bathroom – take a few minutes to breathe and then show everyone where the bar is.
Cautious Style: Let’s just say, that you’ve toiled over the spreadsheet for weeks, you even created a pool for the football games. So what if Aunt Bethany brings a jello mold with cat food (name the movie?), and the turkey thermometer is off a few degrees? Take a look around, and really connect with those around you. It’s too early for the Grinch.
Does anyone come to mind? How about YOU? Discover your style
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